Hello again
Well I have never wanted flowers to die faster than the one's I got for mom. They seem to live on and on. It is because I am allergic to them, that they seem to know and are staying alive to torture me.
I can't just throw them away. Hey mom I am throwing away your flowers. That conversation is not going to happen. I will just put up with it. They can't last forever. You never know LOL
It was the night to wash mom's hair again. I wash it every other day.
I just want to now give a recap of how my evening goes.
I arrive between 4:30 to 4:45 pm.
The first thing I do is get mom over to her spot for dinner, or I go and get her plates, two wet wash clothes plus a couple of wet paper towels.( If mom is already in her spot)
I then get all of her fruit, cheese and other items from the fridge in the family kitchen
I wipe her mouth, as the nurses, who give mom her medication, do not do this and the medication just drys on her mouth.
I then give her something to drink. Some of her coke, juice and water she loves. Mary is always very thirsty when I arrive.
I get everything out onto the table. Cut her avocado, some cheese, place the crackers out on the plate. Open up the smoothie. And put the dinner that she gets at the home, on a separate plate, one of her plates.
I then feed her dinner, give her drinks. Plus I then cut up her papaya and kiwi for her dessert.
At this point mom is full and I take her to her bedroom.
I get her into her nightgown. And put her into bed.
I get her pants off of her, so she is ready for changing.
I brush her teeth and give her something to rinse her mouth out with.
I then wash her face, rise it off and then apply lip balm, and lotion to her face.
I wash her arms and apply lotion on them, as well, plus put on hand and nail lotion.
I give her something to drink and a snack
We now wait for the staff to come in and change mom. Before I wash her legs and massage her legs and apply lotion to them while massaging them. I hold her hand. Mom is completely relaxed and falling asleep.
After this mom is thirsty again.
All the while I sing to her, we chat about anything and everything. We talk. Mom, may not be able to vocalize what she wants to say, But she can sure communicate very effectively.
It is now 7:30 to 8:00 pm. and I sing our good night song. Give mom hugs and kisses. And I will just hold her hand until she falls asleep.
This is most of what I do on a daily basis for mom. Every single day. Mom expects this and looks forward to this. I am so glad that mom loves to hold my hand.
It is for warmth, security, love and compassion that she holds my hand. And I have no problem with this at all.
I do so much more than this for mom, To make her comfortable, to make her relaxed. I sing to her, I play dinner music for her. Then when we get into her room, I put on her music to sleep too. Diana Krall.
When I leave I turn her stereo on,which is filled with Diana Krall and this she listens to all night long.
This is my day. Besides the 7 hours of traveling that I do.
This is what I do for my mother, to make sure she knows someone loves her and cares for her and that she knows that I will be their all the time for her.
This is my job, and I am happy to be doing this for mom.
I thought about it. Things have worked out the way they are to be. If I was married, there is no way I would be able to spend this time with mom. My wife would never allow this much time I spend with mom.
All things are as they were meant to be.
As GOD arranged it.
So I need to go to bed now.
GOD bless and good night
I hope you now have an understanding of what I do each and everyday. I am busy from the moment I get their until I leave.
Kris Schmuland
