Hello again
Well mom is hot and tired. The air conditioner is not working properly. The staff didn't even turn her fan on. Really. Need to keep her room cool. Not sweltering hot. I am exaggerating a but, So after getting mom and going down to her room. That was the first thing I did, turn her fan on. And because mom is hot, this makes her tired as well.
I just picked up a burger for her and some onion rings to go with it. Mom does like this. But, again, being tired, mom was chewing and chewing and not swallowing. So tonight it took a very long time for mom to eat her dinner. It didn't matter to me. But I still had to coach her into swallowing her food. She wanted more food, I had to tell her I can't give you anymore until you swallow what you have in your mouth. I feel really bad doing that. It has to be done, otherwise mom would choke on her food.
Finally this was done, with just enough time to get her changed and ready for the care aid to come and put her into bed.
Well by this time, mom's room had cooled off enough, that I could turn her fan off when I left. It was just the matter of giving mom her spa treatment. This just made mom extremely relaxed, ready to sleep. And I didn't even have time to stand there and hold her hand. I had to leave. No choice.
It was to bad, I like to hold her hand until she falls asleep. Mom tonight did not want to let go of my hand and when I did pull it away to serve her some dinner, she got upset.
It is her security blanket. So to speak.
Well.
I submitted the consent form to the complaint office and I finally received a call back from the case manager. We spoke I explained to her that there is not agreements in place. A representative agreement or Committee of person in place so it is up to the person who is the most active in the persons life that makes the health care decisions.
Well she tells me that she is going to check on the decision making. Within 10 minuets I receive a call back and the case manager telling me she can't help me, because I am not the one to go to for my mothers health care decisions.
We have been through this before. This manager Jane is sexist. She doesn't believe a man can do what I am doing.
There is nothing in place and if there is it is illegal. The courts require that whom ever is applying for committee of person has to inform all siblings of there intentions. And if they do not. Well they lied to the courts. My sisters I mean. This is something they would do, not realizing I would check this out.
Or make sure Al Hogg proves to me they have copies of the proper documents. This Jane didn't get back to me, or answer any of my messages. Until today that is.
I arrive and one of the nurses told me Jane was looking for me. And they told her I am there whether it is raining, snowing, hot, cold etc.... No matter what I am there 7 days a week. All Jane could say was oh! This is what the nurse told me and this nurse I trust.
So now on Thursday, since tomorrow is a holiday, Canada Day. I will go really early to speak with Jane about this.
Other than this. This is causing my arm to shake more. From the Parkinson's I need to keep calm. Not be stressed out. Wait, I just thought of this. I can use this if I decide to sue Jane.
Anyways, before I make any rash decisions, I will speak with her first.
GOD bless and good night
Kristopher Schmuland
Above is the other side of dealing with Alzheimer's care. Members of family who think they have the right to do what they want. Even though they are never around. And being a male having to deal with the sexist individuals out there.
