Hello again
Today was just like all the rest that has been happening lately. Didn't speak to anyone, as it has been this way for quite sometime now. No conversions. I am forgetting how to speak. I have so much to do and I don't have the time. If I do more than one thing per day I am exhausted. This is besides taking care of my mother.
I have at least 6 major emails to write, A few other important projects that need to be done. I need to move, as I just can't take it here anymore. Mold,
Well mom is doing fine,as usual. Very thirsty this evening and not wanting to let go of my hand. Lonely is what she is. She cannot speak, so as I have mentioned before, the day staff doesn't think she is with it. They think she is lost in her Dementia. Not so. I prove it everyday. With our interactions.
Then it was Sushi day today. Mom ate this plus the meat portion of the served meal. Pork. I will have to have a word with the dietitian, just to stop feeding mom pork and give her some solid food. I will need to mention what I bring to her and what she eats and cannot eat anymore. Or should I say chew successfully.
Then after mom was in bed it was the massage and spa treatment to finish off her night. She really looks forward to this. Once dinner is done, she wants to be in bed right away. Of course we have to wait for the care aid to come in and put her to bed. This, by the way, is the only thing the care aids do for mom, once I get there. Nothing else. I mean nothing else. From the moment I walk through those doors, until I leave, I do everything for mom. It is a gift for me that I get to do this for another. My mother.
Really there is not much else to say. Except when I had a conversation with the manager about the clothing, It was in front of mother. I will not deal with these issues in front of my mother. I have things to say and mom does not need to have this stress put on her.
Well the conversation went something like this. I spoke with some of the staff that change your mother in the morning. They say it would be easier to have everything adapted. So to make it so they don't have to do so much work. It is hard for them to dress your mother. I pull out a article of clothing and say this is big enough that it does not have to be adapted. Oh we think it does. Start out with half a dozen outfits to get adapted and go from there.
What she really said was. " We don't care what you think, we want everything to be easy for us, we are just to damn lazy to take the effort to dress your mother." There are articles of clothing that would be ruined if they were adapted. Certain sweaters for example. Cotton knits. And some new clothing that it ruined the look of them.
And I know that the staff will not close them up as the manager has said the would do. This has been the issue in the past. The staff close the shirts up on the top and leave the rest open. Exposing mom's back, allowing her back to be touching the cold chair. This is why I removed the one adapted shirt that was purchased for mom. The manager was not in today when I arrived. I wanted to have a proper conversation with her, without mom being there. I will be informing her of what I will have adapted and what I won't. The manager thinks she has won, thinking I will listen to everything she said and agree with it.
I will be informing her of the laziness of the staff. And the fact that I have 0 respect for the day staff as they do not respect my mother and her property. Or her person. They rip her nightgowns and nothing is done about it. They slam the lift bar into the side of her head and all I get is they don't know who did it. DENY, DENY, DENY AND DENY! That is what they do. They take no responsibility for their actions. They could of killed my mother and nothing would happen. No action is ever taken.
Just like the time I saw a care aid open hand slap a resident. I reported it and she is still working.
The nurses are all up in arms about being attacked by patients. That they patient should be charged with assault. Well what about charging the staff with assault for injuring attacking a resident or patient. That doesn't happen. The staff think they are bullet proof. Time to teach them that there are consequences for your actions. Being charged.
That is one of the letters I need to get to. To write the newly appointed Seniors advocate of BC, Canada.
I NEED HELP. I NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS MOLD INFESTED HELL HOLE.
PLEASE PRAY FOR MOM AND I.
GOD bless and good night.
Kris Schmuland
Oh yea, another person told me I will be blessed for what I am doing for my mother. I really felt like letting them have a ear full. I bit my tung
